I need you guys to help me with this problem. I've been wrecking my brain trying to get the bottom of this but I just can't get it right.
My ex wanted me to return all of my stuffs that she'd given to me while we were dating. All the birthday cards, anniversary cards, letters and her personal pictures. I would happily return the pictures but the birthday cards?? Really?
She explained that getting back that stuffs is part of her 'getting over me' processes. That's exactly what baffles me much. Somehow, she needs that stuffs (which practically are my stuffs since she gave 'em all as a GIFT) and burn them all to the ground to get over me. I think that is just plain crazy and insane.
The social convention of gift giving is practically simple.When you present a gift to someone, acceptance is assumed, unless they actually, physical or vocally, reject it. But since I accepted it, it becomes my property. And as a result, a gift given and accepted cannot legally be revoked by the giver.
Here's my points:
1. Well it's not exactly my intention to cling on her by not getting rid of her stuffs. It's just when I give 'em all to her, it's like the past 4 years of my life was all for nothing.
2. At least, when I have the all the letters and cards I knew I made a girl happy. I knew that I made her feel special.
3. It was kind of my testimonial of how well I was doing for the past 4 years. That I'm a hell of boyfriend (ha ha ha).
4. Who would revoke someone's birthday card? It's just plain crazy.
4. AND, if there is one person who I feel is qualified enough to tell me to get rid of these stuffs, it would be my next girlfriend. Not my ex.
Honestly, I don't like my chances on this one knowing that majority of my blog readers are female. But, I do think I have some valid points to defend my stance. You guys are the jury. If the majority roots for me, the letters and cards stay with me. But if they don't, I would totally give 'em all back to her.
Now, if you guys will excuse me I'm gonna sleep this off and let Pete and Carl heal my wound.